300 Words a Day - #33: Don't be a Barnacle

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Our family and friends think they know what’s best for us, just as we think we know what’s best for them.

We willingly advise those of whom we care for, with the hope of steering them to safety.

But what happens when they shock us by doing something that alters our perception of them?

Do we get offended because our preconceived expectations and assumptions of who we thought they were, now prove to be useless? Do we feel foolish, now?

When they decide to live a life they want to live, as apposed to the life we expect and want them to live, do we feel offended because we thought we had them down to a tee? 

And now all of a sudden they’ve changed, and it is us that are left feeling confused and uncertain about life. Furthermore, where we stand in relation to this person - who we thought we knew so well - is now unclear.

Many of us don’t like change. It’s the unknown that bothers us. Whereas certainty can make us feel comfortable and cozy.

It can be a shock to the system when others don’t like change in your life because of how it makes them feel.

True colors can begin to seep through.

Or maybe they say they’re worried about you because they think you’re making a wrong move.

What to do?

Are you going to change your mind and deny yourself the chance to truly live the life you want to live? 

Guilt can be overbearing.

Or are you going to stick to what your deeper self is telling you; that you need to make this move because this is the way life is taking you?  

We put ourselves under enormous amounts of pressure when we resist the flow of life.

Ask any barnacle.

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You Deserve the Best

"... I finally understand my right to choose

My preacher man told me it could always be worse
Even the three-legged dog still got three good legs to lose
So you can stop and refresh the rules
Breathe in, breathe out, let it heal all your exit wounds
Something inside said that's the move
and maybe today, I'll start fresh and new."

These are the lyrics I woke up with this morning running through my mind. They're from the 'The Day' by The Roots.

You can listen to it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FS88jxG1CJo

As always, when I wake up with lyrics in my head it means that my subconscious mind is trying to tell me something. It can be a song I haven't heard for many years, yet the lyrics are present when I open my eyes. They're loud and clear as if the song had been played to me in my sleep. My subconscious mind knows that I love music and it uses it as a tool to communicate with me, knowing farewell that I'll listen.

So what do these lyrics mean for me?

They act as a reminder that my feelings are there to be trusted. They act as a reminder that they're guiding me, free of charge, if only I invest in them my trust. My subconscious mind is telling me that it's using my feelings as a way to help me move forward. They can get me out of any rut that I face - and so far they have never once failed.

This time, they relate to an area in my life that has been nagging me for a couple of weeks. Now that I've been reminded of "my right to choose" I know that I only have to be in that situation for as long as I choose to be.

And that's massively empowering, especially when I've been assuming that there's no way out.

I asked myself a simple question: If I was to die within the next two days, do I want to be feeling like this for the rest of my life?

The obvious answer was a very blunt no.

So I did something about it.

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I urge you to trust that which is innate within you.

It deserves your attention and trust.

And you deserve it's guidance and assurance.

Learn to listen and distinguish the difference between your head and your heart.

Your head will tell you, with a voice soaked in fear, that something can't be done, and will even come up with reasons to back it up.

If you listen to this voice and give it time and attention, life will present you with evidence (undesirable circumstances, difficult situations) that this voice was the gospel truth.

And with conviction you will say to yourself and others, 'You see... I told you life was hard. I told you that nothing good ever happens to me.'

You might even be labelled unlucky or unfortunate by some, and there will be a part of you that kind of likes that because it proves that you were right.

And who doesn't like being right about their own life?

As long as you maintain this pattern of mental behaviour, you will see evidence for it in your life.

Yet it's all down to how you managed your attention.

The inner, that which is unseen, is reflected on the outer, which is seen... the outer being a manifested state of the inner.

Plant the seed of a rose and only a fool expects an apple tree to spring forth from the soil.

Your heart, on the other hand, will cradle your head and tell it not to worry, that everything is going to be OK. Your heart, with a soothing voice, will say, 'Trust in me. I am the way.'

If it sounds a bit like God to you, it's because it is.

It's because you are.

It is your I Am.

If that makes you feel a bit uncomfortable, then change the three lettered word with a word like Life. 

They're two fingers pointing at the same star.

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Your heart beats to the rhythm of the entire universe. 

It deserves your respect. 

Feelings of fear (not to be confused with nervousness or mild anxiety) - those that come with a certain heaviness to them - spring from your head and are due to a lack of trust and, ultimately, ignorance.

These thoughts should not be given a second one.

Feelings of warmth and hope - those that come with a certain lightness to them - those that 'feel right', come from your heart; a deeper part of yourself that knows you and knows what is best for you.

For these thoughts and feelings, there is no such thing as too much attention.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that make you feel safe and reassuring.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that put a smile on your heart - it can be sensed by others.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that help you perceive others in a loving light.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that fill you with hope and inspiration.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that help you see every moment as a reason to celebrate.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that fill you with love; first for yourself and then for others - this is not being selfish.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to those that give you energy, enthusiasm and a burning passion for living.

You deserve the best.

Change your thoughts and expectations to truly exercise your free will.

You deserve the best.

You really do.

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Trust

Trust is something I've been grappling with lately. Trust and Patience.

I become impatient when I lack the trust in the Divine plan of how my life is unfolding. I end up wanting to speed up the process. But you can't force a rose to bloom. As my good friend Andy Brown said, you can't force a snake to shed its skin, and if you try it'll bite. If you try to force a rose to bloom you will no doubt spoil the natural beauty that unfolds when the process occurs naturally.

When trust is absent my plans become the driving force of my existence, whereas when I trust, my plans are still there, but they're more in line with the Divine plan and therefore it feels like I don't have to do anything - for everything is being done through me. Only then, when I trust, do I see and understand that whatever is happening is happening the way it's supposed to be happening - everything that is is because it can't be any other way.

And when I do trust, everything feels so perfect that I often question myself as to how I could ever mistrust the process?

All the struggles I have been through have always lead to spiritual growth (learning something about who I really am). In life, you really can't fail. It isn't an option. At least, that's how I see it. Things might not work out the way you had planned, but that's my point - the way you planned. This is not a indication of failure. It means that the ever unfolding happening didn't match up to your plans, but it was always in the Divine plan, if it wasn't, then it wouldn't be.

All you have to do is trust and allow this plan to work through you, as it always has your best interests at heart. I'm aware this sounds very generic but maybe that's material for another post.

If you find yourself being impatient with the path that you're on, if you think that life isn't changing fast enough for you, if you find yourself hating your present situation so much that you scream into a pillow (I've been there - it didn't help) - then sit back, know that it's part of the 'bigger' plan, and trust that everything is happening the way it's supposed to be happening.

Every leaf falls in exactly the right place, at exactly the right pace.

When you become impatient, you're likely (and this is from my own personal experience) to make the ride a tad bumpy, when it can be smooth, if only you wish to trust.

You are the rose that's blooming - right now you're beautiful and perfect and exactly in the place you're supposed to be in. Don't spoil the process by forcing yourself to bloom prematurely.

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(All of the above are instructions for myself.)