Love?

Doesn't marriage seem a bit old fashioned, a bit dated - not to mention self-limiting?

We think that by dedicating ourselves to one 'external' person (i.e. not ourselves) we are expressing our love for them. But is it love? Is it a form of attachment? Clingyness? Possessiveness? Obsessiveness? Are you clinging to the person 'you love' and acting like a parasite? Not giving them space - not letting them live their lives. Many people are unaware they do this and think it is love.

Eckhart Tolle's right when he says, 'True love has not wanting'.

'God is love' it says in the Upanishads.

If anything, when we say we love someone, the majority of the time it means we are physically attracted to them (which may change with time) or feel connected to them or care for them and have compassion for them. Which is all fine and dandy . . . but is that really love?

Ultimately, if you love someone you love everyone. I don't believe you can love just one person. If you think you can, then that's not real love. It may be a form of compassion, and there's nothing wrong with that - just that you've given it a false label.

When you see you true nature and become more present in your daily life, love will arise. 

True love is to love all as one - simply because you will have seen who you are, and that won't be separate from the rapist, the drug dealer or the guy who has just beaten up a OAP for her loose change - we, you are not separate from them.

'You are the primordial energy of the universe coming on as whoever you are. I know I'm that, too. But we learn to define ourselves as separate from it.' Alan Watts.

Be aware and observe.

Exciting Times

Trouble in the East . . .
Solar flares just last week . . .
Earthquakes in New Zealand . . .

. . . related much?

There's something quite sincere about this 2012 stuff.

Exciting times.

The Monkfish and the Monk - Episode 3

The monk fell asleep and he began to dream.

He awoke at the bottom of the ocean. He was sat in the lotus position on a glowing rock.

A monkfish was swimming close by.

'Oh, Monkfish,' the monk said. 'What happens when we die?'

'Look up and see the waves collapsing into the vast ocean,' said the monkfish.

And in an instant the monk woke up.

Watch Your Little Finger

I was doing my 'big Sunday shop' today at my local supermarket and became aware of the fact that everyone around me was the same as me. I saw past their physical expressions (expressions of form) and saw them as the formless life energy. Then I realised that I was that life energy too. I saw how interconnected we all are. 

I looked at faces and straight away saw the formless wonder behind them, operating the form.

It's the same experience I had with the dead cat on my walk (something I mentioned in an earlier post). I could see that the difference between me and the cat was that the life energy which made the cat 'a cat' to us, had left. Whereas the life energy that made up what people know as 'Gavin Whyte' was still contained within form.

We don't die.

Just watch your little finger move.

Bertrand Russell

'Love is wise. Hatred is foolish.'

Words spoken by the philosopher, Bertrand Russell. It was found in the BBC's archive footage and shown on the Culture Show, on BBC 2 last night.

Great stuff.

Life is a Blind Bend

I was walking my dog today and got talking to an old man about the weather (the one topic we have in common with the majority of folk).

'To say they forecast it to rain,' I said, 'it's turned into a lovely day.'

'It has,' he said.

'Will they ever get it right?' I said, mocking the Met Office.

He laughed and said, 'Them getting it wrong is what makes it interesting.'

That got me thinking about life in general. How exciting it is that we don't know what's round the corner? Life is one big blind blend. If we knew what came next, surely life would lose its magic.

Dead Leaves

Today I was clearing the leaves up in the garden and realised that all the leaves had fully expressed themselves before falling.

Was I?

Are you?

"To fully express oneself. Now that, my friend, is a very hard thing to do."

Bruce Lee.

You will be Quiet

"When it's time for you to see, you will see . . . You'll not run out into the streets screaming and waving your arms in the air trying warn and educate the remaining consciousness . . . You will be quiet . . . Smile contently as you simply disappear into the rest of the mind like a rain drop into the ocean, your sensors imploding as you become the shadow of an atom, realising that at every moment of your experience  you never really had a clue and that did not matter in the slightest, as soon as I let slip my mental grip on reality, all the strain of mind vanished . . . mmmmm green tea!"

 

This was sent to me by my good friend, Dan Brown.

 

 

 

 

The Monkfish and the Monk - Episode 2

The monk fell asleep and he began to dream.

He awoke at the bottom of the ocean. He was sat in the lotus position on a crawling crab.

A monkfish was swimming close by.

'Oh, Monkfish,' the monk said. 'I feel lost, so I'm looking for myself. Can you help?'

'Maybe that's where you're going wrong,' said the monkfish, calmly.

And in an instant the monk woke up.

Lucky Candy

On my round today, a Chinese lady came running out of her house and gave me two sweets.

'Our lucky candy!' she said. 'New year candy.'

After saying thanks and wishing her a happy new year I unwrapped one of the 'lucky' sweets and put it in my mouth.

Superstition tastes sweet with a strange aftertaste.

Peter Otoole

My good friend Pete Otoole is an awesome artist.

We first worked together when I was trying to make it as a musician (a good 6 - 7 years ago). He designed the front covers for my demos, and when I eventually got signed he designed covers for the EP releases.

After talking to Pete I'm always left with a huge amount of determination, focus, excitement and creativity.

I always tell people, 'Follow your passion and money will become a byproduct.' Pete is a perfect example of this.

He quit his job and became a full-time artist.

He's always been focused and determined to make a living out of what he loves doing, which is anything to do with art.

Learn from this guy.

Use him as an example for having the guts to go for what you want in life. And when you get knocked down, you get back up again and learn from it. Grow from it.

We're going to start a new project; a book on an adventure to find the self.

Watch this space.

Check out Pete's site:

http://www.peter-otoole.co.uk/

Form - Formless

It's easy to say that death and dying causes suffering. It definetly looks like that on the surface. But what if that's not the case?

Maybe it's our attachment to forms (people, pets, material possessions - our own physical form etc) that causes the suffering.

Forms belong to the world of forms and therefore are in a state of flux.

Clinging to 'things', whether it's to a person or a pet, or a house, or your body, will cause you to suffer at the moment it gets taken away.

Why cling to something that will one day be 'unclingable'?

To not cling is not being cold.

If anything, it's being warm.

'True love is letting go', as the saying goes.

The formless world that exists behind all forms - now there's a wonder.

Little Fly

I was making a cup of tea and I saw a fly land on the wall next to me.

I asked it, 'What happens when we die, little fly?'

And it flew off.