Friday, 12 May 2017

Doing This One Thing Can Make Life So Much Easier

So many of us are afraid of doing this one thing. Without it we get nowhere, or we get somewhere slowly; and the road was probably a treacherous one when it didn’t need to be that treacherous.

We’re afraid to do this one thing because we’re afraid of how we might look in the eyes of others - at least that’s one of the reasons we’re afraid to do it. 

It’s a pride thing. 

(Pride + Fear = Suffering alone when there’re 7 billion of us under the sky.)

Silly, really, not just because of the hefty numbers that are working in our favour, but because behind the eyes the other is exactly the same as you. It really is like looking in a mirror, once you bypass surface appearances. 

I’m digressing, but my point is there’s nothing to be afraid of by doing this one thing.

Okay, here it is. Here’s the one thing you can do today that can make life so much easier for yourself.

You can… ask for help.

There’s nothing new under the sun, as they say, so I’m sorry if you feel a little let down. 

Maybe I built it up too much…

But asking for help is so unbelievably effective! 

Not to mention helpful…

Whether it’s related to your current workload in the office; your turbulent relationship you feel trapped in; maybe you’re afraid to ask for help with something health-related (have you found a lump? A new mole? What is it? Go and ask and find out). Maybe there’s a form you need to fill out and you’ve no idea how to do it. It just feels too complicated and now you’re feeling anxious. Check online for instructions. Find an email address; a phone number.

We’re connected like never before, what with the internet and social media. Help is at our fingertips.

Ignore that voice in your head that feeds you scary what-if scenarios. I have that voice too. I put it in its place and it shuts up - until next time.

Here’s something to remember… the reason there’s help out there is because, most often than not, someone has gone through what you’re currently facing - or at least something similar.

And they made it out alive to tell the tale.

Who better to receive help from than the person who’s familiar (or even vaguely familiar) with the path you’re on and the obstacles you’re facing? 

Then you know you were never alone; for if there’s one thing not asking for help creates within, it’s a feeling of isolation and loneliness.

There’re too many of us for you to feel lonely. Reach out your hand and somebody, somewhere, will grab it. 

What I’ve found is that most of us like to help. It makes us feel good. We don’t help because it feels good or to feel good; we feel good for helping because when we help we're helping ourselves. We’re one and the same, remember?

Be nice to the person looking back at you in the mirror, and see how you feel.

So, please, if you’re feeling stuck, for whatever reason, reach out. There’re so many of us, at least one of us will be able to help you.

Even if it’s your truly. 

Please, get in touch by all means. I don’t bite…

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